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Power of Frequency

Basics but important, I reckon.

Of course, the more you do or try something the better you’ll get at that thing.

One nuance I’m realising, which makes me smile, is that a little bit, often, makes the difference.

E.g. After early morning meditation and Qi Gong, then do pilates exercises.

Key point though, don’t try and do lots, just start doing it often. Every day 1 minute is was better than once a week 10 minutes.

Sure, by that maths the once a week gets more minutes in. But the 7 x 1 minute gives you 6 times more of more important bits: remembering to do it (it can be anything, right?), feeling good about doing it, building it into your routine, making a habit of it.

Those elements listed above are more important, much more important and helpful, than 3 extra minutes.

Hope useful.

Much love to everyone, thanks for reading.

Better being relaxed

So this feels really obvious, but it’s only very recently I’ve actually managed to make this work. Lots of people say this, and they are correct, but it’s also hard to actually do.

Be relaxed, in your life, be actually relaxed. Laugh, have fun. Be open to stuff happening in the world and enjoy what happens to you throughout the day.

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There is no better thing, because once you realise you can be relaxed, then life is more fun. More interesting, more enjoyable.

Even in important work meetings, be relaxed.

Just ’cause everyone else isn’t being relaxed, can’t let themselves see the irony etc, doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t.

 

There are moments when things are actually not fun, actually not cool etc. And enjoying those moments is super-hard.

Nonetheless, I recommend genuinely letting your shoulder’s drop.

For one thing, having a clear mind, having clarity, let’s you think more clearly and make the better choices.

No link sponsorship (yet!), but I deeply recommend you read: https://www.jamiesmart.com/clarity-the-book/

The book used to be called: “Think less, achieve more” and now comes in a snazzy dark blue cover, but hey. The content when I read it 2 or 3 years ago has stuck, and is completely, completely precise in how useful and brilliant it is.

Techniques I recommend and use all the time

I will try (and fail) to keep this post updated with links to other useful posts about techniques. Rest assured I use each of these ‘on the regular’. See detail in each post – I won’t write about each one here for now.

Hope this is useful, cheers, Hugh.

 

Excellent routes to changing how you behave:

4 Affirmations that changed my world

Speak to Yourself To Create The Hypnosis Motivate To Success Formula (This one is not a post by me, but is useful)

Hot thoughts diary

Dragon Glass introduction

 

For mindfulness all day, the following techniques I find helpful:

The itchy jumper: Mindful all day technique

How to introduce mindfulness during your day

All day mindfulness

The itchy jumper: Mindful all day technique

Here’s another technique I use to remind myself to be mindful as much of my day as possible.

Right now, as I write good and early in the morning, I’m wearing one of my favourite, but old and still itchy as anything jumpers. This one happens to be from Galway or nearby o the west coast of Ireland, and I bought it 5+ years ago and it is green.

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Green is good, of course. So that is helpful too.

I might ramble a bit – but here’s the point:

The jumper is itchy, so that provides a minute by minute reminder to focus (in this case on my breath and my typing) and be in the moment. 

Turns out I can be mindful of where I’m sitting, of my breath, of what I mean as I type, of my fingers as I type and of you being ‘out there somewhere’ as readers – all as I write this sentence.

In places, I lose awareness of some of the list of things above, but I can always come back to the breath or my bum on the seat as soon as I realise.

 

A big thank you to Andy from Headspace for allowing me and encouraging me to understand this kind of thing. See (unpaid unsupported type) link here: www.headspace.com – I highly recommend the way Andy introduces mindfulness practice.

 

How to introduce mindfulness during your day

This is a tricky one, but makes all the difference. If you can be mindful as you go about your day, many less difficulties come your way. And, overriding the benefit of avoiding negative stuff, is the unrealistically wonderful feeling enjoyment in almost everything. Now, that, that is worth it all. That much I have experienced myself.

Like in Bob Marley’s Redemption Song that is so well loved by me and so many others: “emancipate yourself from mental slavery, none but ourselves can free our minds

So, the key step is how to be mindful all day long – how to free your mind, put you and your everything on a much better track.

Techniques then, are key. Try these alongside your daily formal mindful / meditation practice:

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On the side of your laptop screen add a a bright colourful reminder. (other sticky paper available, and non-branded recommended – see kid’s birthday party invite sticker in picture…). The idea being that every time you look at your screen, or log in to you laptop, you will be reminded.

Flat stone in your shoe

Now, this is something that people often avoid – for good reason, it can be really sore or uncomfortable.

So pick a flat stone that won’t dig into your feet, and make sure to only keep in there for a little bit and swap it from place to place and foot to foot. If you are brave / radical enough to do this you’ve got a fine strong reminder.

 

NOTE: This is precisely the kind of thing that Jon Kabat-Zinn and Andy from Headspace talk about. Well worn and well honed types of techniques from thousands of years ago. Of course, now in a modern context. Stones less so, laptops and post-it notes certainly. Ha.

Enjoy folks, utterly worth it I can attest.

 

Be radical: I’m not going to buy clothes

I’ve been trying to not buy food from all the wrong places, covered in plastic, for a while now. The big Tesco near us said today when I challenged them and their inactivity that they’d “put it on the ATC” and hopefully that would make a difference.

Materially, asking those questions of the those not doing anything is important, but we all need to go more radical. Actual change and fast. Thanks Greta, for being direct.

Going further

I’ve got my current clothes. I’ve got suits for smart work, I’ve got a bunch of shirts. I’ve got spare shoes – and those with the soles coming off.

No time for inventory.

No time – and not the right thing to do – to stock up on socks and pants and t-shirts.

How far, in years, can I go? How long will it last?

Makes you wonder, if you purposefully abdicate from the system, from just buying the poor quality goods, the inescapably irresponsible goods, how long you can make it, survive, live ok and not end up in trouble.

I met a young person the other day. Refusing jobs just as their PhD in clever neural network RNA processing was coming to an end. Refusing jobs, currently living on oats and very little else. Doesn’t want a job, as being paid is tantamount to sacrificing all ideals. So that was a) startling, and b) memorable and c) inspiring. Thank you, unnamed individual, I appreciated meeting you. And I will remember you living in a tent with just a few bits of key tech and a bike. Getting £5 a week from friends. That is hard living in London.

So my bit…

My attempt: no more buying clothes. Step out of that part of economy.

Maybe I’ll end up making clothes. And presumably the cloth with which to make them out of.

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Let’s see.

All day mindfulness

This is about how to find obvious reminders for mindfulness, during my day, that are effort free and perpetual, i.e. they aren’t going away.

Now, don’t get me wrong, I’m purposely titling this post as something I find very difficult. To be mindful on the way back from the hospital after a long day helping out is hard. To listen to your keys jangle as you go down the steps, to feel each footstep on each step. That is possible, a relief in some way, but all day? That’s interestingly far out of reach for me right now.

This is something I was talking about with one of my mentoring clients recently (mentees? I’ve never quite gotten on board with that term/word). How to bring mindful awareness into the moment by moment that is all of our lives, however those moments end up being lived in our heads.

Can we, essentially, be more aware, more conscious, all day long?

My answer is yes, and it’s much talked about by influential authors such as Jon Kabut Zinn and Andy from Headspace.

Once we are mindful, we can choose to enjoy those around us, encourage them, enjoy all the miniature things in life. Notice the moments and relish them. Which is a wonderful thing. We can choose to be positive, choose how to respond, be proactive and joyful.

Utterly worthwhile, choice

So that is worthwhile. Certainly made a transformative and monumental difference to be. You should see how much fun it is on the ward, and what we get done (I’m not a doctor or nurse – those folk are great – I’m just a Dad). 19 09 08 The_Filbert_Steps_All Day Mindfulness BLOGGED

The way I’ve taken it on is that by using obvious repeated activities, like going through doors, or brushing your teeth, walking up and down stairs etc. If I could remind myself to be mindful during these activities, I would begin to build a series of life long reminders.

And to come out of the ‘I would if this’ mode, into the ‘I am, I do this’ mode: I try it, it works. Steps, as per the real example from earlier this evening, work well. I go up and down stairs, fast and often. Usually fast, and not always mindfully, but occasionally I manage it, and the habit is improving. With steps it’s improving, with brushing my teeth it’s improving.

All this is aimed at furthering my ability to notice where I am, and to be aware. Simply to find more and more opportunities. I set alarms on my phone too and all sorts of other tricks. But those like going in or out of doors are hard to accumulate as good reminders, but once grasped, stick around and are useful.

HABIT REMINDER: When brushing my teeth, what do I think about? Am I worrying about the day ahead or day just gone. Am I concerned how grey my hair is, or how coloured my teeth are. Or have I managed to be aware of my feet, and focus gently on brushing.

HABIT REMINDER: When I go out of a door, my front door, the building front door, a train door, a bus door, do I remember? Yes, sometimes.