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Better being relaxed

So this feels really obvious, but it’s only very recently I’ve actually managed to make this work. Lots of people say this, and they are correct, but it’s also hard to actually do.

Be relaxed, in your life, be actually relaxed. Laugh, have fun. Be open to stuff happening in the world and enjoy what happens to you throughout the day.

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There is no better thing, because once you realise you can be relaxed, then life is more fun. More interesting, more enjoyable.

Even in important work meetings, be relaxed.

Just ’cause everyone else isn’t being relaxed, can’t let themselves see the irony etc, doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t.

 

There are moments when things are actually not fun, actually not cool etc. And enjoying those moments is super-hard.

Nonetheless, I recommend genuinely letting your shoulder’s drop.

For one thing, having a clear mind, having clarity, let’s you think more clearly and make the better choices.

No link sponsorship (yet!), but I deeply recommend you read: https://www.jamiesmart.com/clarity-the-book/

The book used to be called: “Think less, achieve more” and now comes in a snazzy dark blue cover, but hey. The content when I read it 2 or 3 years ago has stuck, and is completely, completely precise in how useful and brilliant it is.

How to introduce mindfulness during your day

This is a tricky one, but makes all the difference. If you can be mindful as you go about your day, many less difficulties come your way. And, overriding the benefit of avoiding negative stuff, is the unrealistically wonderful feeling enjoyment in almost everything. Now, that, that is worth it all. That much I have experienced myself.

Like in Bob Marley’s Redemption Song that is so well loved by me and so many others: “emancipate yourself from mental slavery, none but ourselves can free our minds

So, the key step is how to be mindful all day long – how to free your mind, put you and your everything on a much better track.

Techniques then, are key. Try these alongside your daily formal mindful / meditation practice:

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On the side of your laptop screen add a a bright colourful reminder. (other sticky paper available, and non-branded recommended – see kid’s birthday party invite sticker in picture…). The idea being that every time you look at your screen, or log in to you laptop, you will be reminded.

Flat stone in your shoe

Now, this is something that people often avoid – for good reason, it can be really sore or uncomfortable.

So pick a flat stone that won’t dig into your feet, and make sure to only keep in there for a little bit and swap it from place to place and foot to foot. If you are brave / radical enough to do this you’ve got a fine strong reminder.

 

NOTE: This is precisely the kind of thing that Jon Kabat-Zinn and Andy from Headspace talk about. Well worn and well honed types of techniques from thousands of years ago. Of course, now in a modern context. Stones less so, laptops and post-it notes certainly. Ha.

Enjoy folks, utterly worth it I can attest.

 

Objectives: Participate in demonstrating there is another way

This is a short, sharp post.

Things are changing. People now realise that now is the time.

And so, my life is, gently, purposefully, and fully dedicated to that overall objective.

We all need to show ourselves that out-and-out capitalism without care and without due attention is both rife and deeply detrimental.

Luckily the demonstration and making clear has already begun, and I can righteously join in.

Come with us.

Be radical: I’m not going to buy clothes

I’ve been trying to not buy food from all the wrong places, covered in plastic, for a while now. The big Tesco near us said today when I challenged them and their inactivity that they’d “put it on the ATC” and hopefully that would make a difference.

Materially, asking those questions of the those not doing anything is important, but we all need to go more radical. Actual change and fast. Thanks Greta, for being direct.

Going further

I’ve got my current clothes. I’ve got suits for smart work, I’ve got a bunch of shirts. I’ve got spare shoes – and those with the soles coming off.

No time for inventory.

No time – and not the right thing to do – to stock up on socks and pants and t-shirts.

How far, in years, can I go? How long will it last?

Makes you wonder, if you purposefully abdicate from the system, from just buying the poor quality goods, the inescapably irresponsible goods, how long you can make it, survive, live ok and not end up in trouble.

I met a young person the other day. Refusing jobs just as their PhD in clever neural network RNA processing was coming to an end. Refusing jobs, currently living on oats and very little else. Doesn’t want a job, as being paid is tantamount to sacrificing all ideals. So that was a) startling, and b) memorable and c) inspiring. Thank you, unnamed individual, I appreciated meeting you. And I will remember you living in a tent with just a few bits of key tech and a bike. Getting £5 a week from friends. That is hard living in London.

So my bit…

My attempt: no more buying clothes. Step out of that part of economy.

Maybe I’ll end up making clothes. And presumably the cloth with which to make them out of.

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Mariusz Prusaczyk – Getty Images

Let’s see.

7 Generations: Making a difference

I definitely need to follow up and confirm where this was really the case in Native American culture, but I heard a wonderful thing:

Native Americans would not do anything, if they could avoid it, that would harm their offspring, even if it affected their 7th Generation of offspring.

I.e. These people were thinking 150 years into the future. And considering what they were doing.

See a different sort of wigwam, sourced from Wikipedia:

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By Rose, Noah H. – http://digital.denverlibrary.org/cdm/ref/collection/p15330coll22/id/36483, Public Domain, https://commons.wikimedia.org/w/index.php?curid=15991832

Contrast with today

It is hard, I think, in our modern 2019 world – especially in Western Society, to think of something that will not harm the 7 Generation. To be sure that is not the case, to know. That is nigh on impossible in our current world.

So, while that point is a strong one, to say the least – the contrast is indicative of something very wrong.

For your thought.

Thank you for reading.

Cold Showers: Making a difference

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I wanted to outline how radical my mindset has become in recent years. It’s fundamental to how I’m thinking about all sorts of things, if not everything.

In September / October 2017 (can’t be sure of the date), I started having only cold showers. I’ve had 2 or 3 hot showers since then, one after our eldest was born, and another when I had a nasty fever. I think those are the only 2.

But why, I hear you cry?

Well, simply, because I do not need hot showers. Hot water is expensive in terms of carbon, so less hot water usage is better. Also, my showers are now shorter than I would need to run the water until it goes hot. So less water usage.

Also, I can see easily where I’ve left grub and grime in the shower because my glasses aren’t all steamed up etc. So helpful too, to be more Making A Difference Everyday.

Hot thoughts diary

One thing regularly recommended is to keep a ‘hot thoughts’ diary.

I tried this ineffectually a few times, and then finally years later realised how a good way to work it might be. There are many others, I’m sure.

My version worked this way:

1. Try and write regularly, with a specific aim. Be honest, otherwise it is a bit pointless.

2. Be thoroughly encouraged by writing stuff down. Know that later this effort will be worthwhile and helpful.

3. Look back over, and think about how better you could write in the coming days, so you can adjust how brave and honest you are prepared to be. Use a (green) highlighter if you want.

4. Write something to summarise, and take stock.

5. Keep writing, even when the immediate ‘issue’ has calmed down.

6. Build mindfulness formal practice and this hot thoughts into a regular routine.