How to introduce mindfulness during your day

This is a tricky one, but makes all the difference. If you can be mindful as you go about your day, many less difficulties come your way. And, overriding the benefit of avoiding negative stuff, is the unrealistically wonderful feeling enjoyment in almost everything. Now, that, that is worth it all. That much I have experienced myself.

Like in Bob Marley’s Redemption Song that is so well loved by me and so many others: “emancipate yourself from mental slavery, none but ourselves can free our minds

So, the key step is how to be mindful all day long – how to free your mind, put you and your everything on a much better track.

Techniques then, are key. Try these alongside your daily formal mindful / meditation practice:

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On the side of your laptop screen add a a bright colourful reminder. (other sticky paper available, and non-branded recommended – see kid’s birthday party invite sticker in picture…). The idea being that every time you look at your screen, or log in to you laptop, you will be reminded.

Flat stone in your shoe

Now, this is something that people often avoid – for good reason, it can be really sore or uncomfortable.

So pick a flat stone that won’t dig into your feet, and make sure to only keep in there for a little bit and swap it from place to place and foot to foot. If you are brave / radical enough to do this you’ve got a fine strong reminder.

 

NOTE: This is precisely the kind of thing that Jon Kabat-Zinn and Andy from Headspace talk about. Well worn and well honed types of techniques from thousands of years ago. Of course, now in a modern context. Stones less so, laptops and post-it notes certainly. Ha.

Enjoy folks, utterly worth it I can attest.

 

Help! Help! I am literally overflowing with ideas

This is a quick one, but doubtless I’ll come back to it.

I need help, not ‘save my life’ type, or anything like that. I need help of the ‘how to make real any of these ideas’ type help.

I need help to realise all these endless awesome ideas (which I’m firmly not going to write up, yet).

I need a unit, a squad, a loose form team.

We need to be only cohesive enough to agree to do something and then raggedy and determinedly do it. What ever, in that moment it might be.

I suggest the book pictured. A fine thing, worth re-reading many times.

Try reading this, and then try it’s suggestions and try them again. That is, if you want to.

Objectives: Participate in demonstrating there is another way

This is a short, sharp post.

Things are changing. People now realise that now is the time.

And so, my life is, gently, purposefully, and fully dedicated to that overall objective.

We all need to show ourselves that out-and-out capitalism without care and without due attention is both rife and deeply detrimental.

Luckily the demonstration and making clear has already begun, and I can righteously join in.

Come with us.

Be radical: I’m not going to buy clothes

I’ve been trying to not buy food from all the wrong places, covered in plastic, for a while now. The big Tesco near us said today when I challenged them and their inactivity that they’d “put it on the ATC” and hopefully that would make a difference.

Materially, asking those questions of the those not doing anything is important, but we all need to go more radical. Actual change and fast. Thanks Greta, for being direct.

Going further

I’ve got my current clothes. I’ve got suits for smart work, I’ve got a bunch of shirts. I’ve got spare shoes – and those with the soles coming off.

No time for inventory.

No time – and not the right thing to do – to stock up on socks and pants and t-shirts.

How far, in years, can I go? How long will it last?

Makes you wonder, if you purposefully abdicate from the system, from just buying the poor quality goods, the inescapably irresponsible goods, how long you can make it, survive, live ok and not end up in trouble.

I met a young person the other day. Refusing jobs just as their PhD in clever neural network RNA processing was coming to an end. Refusing jobs, currently living on oats and very little else. Doesn’t want a job, as being paid is tantamount to sacrificing all ideals. So that was a) startling, and b) memorable and c) inspiring. Thank you, unnamed individual, I appreciated meeting you. And I will remember you living in a tent with just a few bits of key tech and a bike. Getting £5 a week from friends. That is hard living in London.

So my bit…

My attempt: no more buying clothes. Step out of that part of economy.

Maybe I’ll end up making clothes. And presumably the cloth with which to make them out of.

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Mariusz Prusaczyk – Getty Images

Let’s see.

Uber-multi-pain, why do we do it, guys?

So guys, why do we tie ourselves in such knots?

For example, minor but illustrative:

My sister and I were cooking Sunday lunch recently (“the other day”) and I was looking for something useful in a drawer – and couldn’t find it. Of course, it was there. ‘Man looking’ was the comment. Fair enough, I didn’t really look, I just stuck my eyes in there for a nanosecond and then said I couldn’t see the (insert cooking item here) whisk.

My sister had a point. I looked again, slower, and there it was. Simple enough. But illustrative of a wider issue. And be sure, I’m not the first to think about this, or mention it.

Does make you wonder though: why do so many men pressure themselves so completely without need. Unnecessarily. Ha! I even worry about the fact that spelling unnecessarily is difficult, and that I should know that, and why is it hard and why aren’t I better etc… Yawn.

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Mills Bauer – Medium

The monster list of things to worry about, not to say, not to do – classic examples being crying or showing emotion. Boy (pun intended) that makes me sad and furious all at the same time.

How dare that be the current status quo, how dare fathers and patriarchs everywhere instill and reinforce such heinous and pathetic rules. Get over yourselves guys. In being so “strong”, you make clear your weakness. It’s just perverse.

Crying is a basic human outlet for emotion, feeling and acceptance of reality.

Showing emotion is at the forefront of being human.

Without an effective ability to show your emotion your ability to be human is severely limited. How dare they pretend that is the right way.

Masculinity is a thin shiny shell that needs to be firmly snapped, shattered and all those sharp edges created in the shattering experienced and felt, sobbed over and accepted. Come on guys, get a grip of being human, being frail, wrong, lost, unsure, fearful and above all, just stop pretending.

With love to everyone.

And especially with love and hugs to all those many blokes so tied up with their standards and requirements of themselves that this post is hard to accept, hard to like, hard to see the value of. Because I’ve been there enough to know what a hard place you’ve pasted yourself into (or been pasted into, although it is always your choice really).

Please, amongst righteous and widespread climate change protests today and a severe lack of both long-term thinking and care-driven behaviour, let’s all be good to ourselves and let it all hang out.

Over.

 

'Posco' means 'challenge' – we try difficult things. And enjoy ourselves