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Better being relaxed

So this feels really obvious, but it’s only very recently I’ve actually managed to make this work. Lots of people say this, and they are correct, but it’s also hard to actually do.

Be relaxed, in your life, be actually relaxed. Laugh, have fun. Be open to stuff happening in the world and enjoy what happens to you throughout the day.

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There is no better thing, because once you realise you can be relaxed, then life is more fun. More interesting, more enjoyable.

Even in important work meetings, be relaxed.

Just ’cause everyone else isn’t being relaxed, can’t let themselves see the irony etc, doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t.

 

There are moments when things are actually not fun, actually not cool etc. And enjoying those moments is super-hard.

Nonetheless, I recommend genuinely letting your shoulder’s drop.

For one thing, having a clear mind, having clarity, let’s you think more clearly and make the better choices.

No link sponsorship (yet!), but I deeply recommend you read: https://www.jamiesmart.com/clarity-the-book/

The book used to be called: “Think less, achieve more” and now comes in a snazzy dark blue cover, but hey. The content when I read it 2 or 3 years ago has stuck, and is completely, completely precise in how useful and brilliant it is.

Techniques I recommend and use all the time

I will try (and fail) to keep this post updated with links to other useful posts about techniques. Rest assured I use each of these ‘on the regular’. See detail in each post – I won’t write about each one here for now.

Hope this is useful, cheers, Hugh.

 

Excellent routes to changing how you behave:

4 Affirmations that changed my world

Speak to Yourself To Create The Hypnosis Motivate To Success Formula (This one is not a post by me, but is useful)

Hot thoughts diary

Dragon Glass introduction

 

For mindfulness all day, the following techniques I find helpful:

The itchy jumper: Mindful all day technique

How to introduce mindfulness during your day

All day mindfulness

The itchy jumper: Mindful all day technique

Here’s another technique I use to remind myself to be mindful as much of my day as possible.

Right now, as I write good and early in the morning, I’m wearing one of my favourite, but old and still itchy as anything jumpers. This one happens to be from Galway or nearby o the west coast of Ireland, and I bought it 5+ years ago and it is green.

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Green is good, of course. So that is helpful too.

I might ramble a bit – but here’s the point:

The jumper is itchy, so that provides a minute by minute reminder to focus (in this case on my breath and my typing) and be in the moment. 

Turns out I can be mindful of where I’m sitting, of my breath, of what I mean as I type, of my fingers as I type and of you being ‘out there somewhere’ as readers – all as I write this sentence.

In places, I lose awareness of some of the list of things above, but I can always come back to the breath or my bum on the seat as soon as I realise.

 

A big thank you to Andy from Headspace for allowing me and encouraging me to understand this kind of thing. See (unpaid unsupported type) link here: www.headspace.com – I highly recommend the way Andy introduces mindfulness practice.

 

How to introduce mindfulness during your day

This is a tricky one, but makes all the difference. If you can be mindful as you go about your day, many less difficulties come your way. And, overriding the benefit of avoiding negative stuff, is the unrealistically wonderful feeling enjoyment in almost everything. Now, that, that is worth it all. That much I have experienced myself.

Like in Bob Marley’s Redemption Song that is so well loved by me and so many others: “emancipate yourself from mental slavery, none but ourselves can free our minds

So, the key step is how to be mindful all day long – how to free your mind, put you and your everything on a much better track.

Techniques then, are key. Try these alongside your daily formal mindful / meditation practice:

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On the side of your laptop screen add a a bright colourful reminder. (other sticky paper available, and non-branded recommended – see kid’s birthday party invite sticker in picture…). The idea being that every time you look at your screen, or log in to you laptop, you will be reminded.

Flat stone in your shoe

Now, this is something that people often avoid – for good reason, it can be really sore or uncomfortable.

So pick a flat stone that won’t dig into your feet, and make sure to only keep in there for a little bit and swap it from place to place and foot to foot. If you are brave / radical enough to do this you’ve got a fine strong reminder.

 

NOTE: This is precisely the kind of thing that Jon Kabat-Zinn and Andy from Headspace talk about. Well worn and well honed types of techniques from thousands of years ago. Of course, now in a modern context. Stones less so, laptops and post-it notes certainly. Ha.

Enjoy folks, utterly worth it I can attest.

 

Help! Help! I am literally overflowing with ideas

This is a quick one, but doubtless I’ll come back to it.

I need help, not ‘save my life’ type, or anything like that. I need help of the ‘how to make real any of these ideas’ type help.

I need help to realise all these endless awesome ideas (which I’m firmly not going to write up, yet).

I need a unit, a squad, a loose form team.

We need to be only cohesive enough to agree to do something and then raggedy and determinedly do it. What ever, in that moment it might be.

I suggest the book pictured. A fine thing, worth re-reading many times.

Try reading this, and then try it’s suggestions and try them again. That is, if you want to.

Objectives: Participate in demonstrating there is another way

This is a short, sharp post.

Things are changing. People now realise that now is the time.

And so, my life is, gently, purposefully, and fully dedicated to that overall objective.

We all need to show ourselves that out-and-out capitalism without care and without due attention is both rife and deeply detrimental.

Luckily the demonstration and making clear has already begun, and I can righteously join in.

Come with us.

Be radical: I’m not going to buy clothes

I’ve been trying to not buy food from all the wrong places, covered in plastic, for a while now. The big Tesco near us said today when I challenged them and their inactivity that they’d “put it on the ATC” and hopefully that would make a difference.

Materially, asking those questions of the those not doing anything is important, but we all need to go more radical. Actual change and fast. Thanks Greta, for being direct.

Going further

I’ve got my current clothes. I’ve got suits for smart work, I’ve got a bunch of shirts. I’ve got spare shoes – and those with the soles coming off.

No time for inventory.

No time – and not the right thing to do – to stock up on socks and pants and t-shirts.

How far, in years, can I go? How long will it last?

Makes you wonder, if you purposefully abdicate from the system, from just buying the poor quality goods, the inescapably irresponsible goods, how long you can make it, survive, live ok and not end up in trouble.

I met a young person the other day. Refusing jobs just as their PhD in clever neural network RNA processing was coming to an end. Refusing jobs, currently living on oats and very little else. Doesn’t want a job, as being paid is tantamount to sacrificing all ideals. So that was a) startling, and b) memorable and c) inspiring. Thank you, unnamed individual, I appreciated meeting you. And I will remember you living in a tent with just a few bits of key tech and a bike. Getting £5 a week from friends. That is hard living in London.

So my bit…

My attempt: no more buying clothes. Step out of that part of economy.

Maybe I’ll end up making clothes. And presumably the cloth with which to make them out of.

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Let’s see.